Ever feel like you barely have enough time to get things done and end up just going through the motions? Most likely we’ve all experienced this at some point or another, and the sad thing is that this can easily happen in our relationships. It’s terrible isn’t it? Terrible, but true. We can so easily take our family, friends, even our best friends, for granted. We can get “used to” someone taking care of us and helping us out at the drop of the hat and eventually forget how lucky and thankful we are for that person… We can get so used to our co-workers having our backs and putting in their share of the work (or even more than their share), and instead of taking a second to realize how much time and effort they put into helping us out, we end up feeling as though it’s their job to do their share of the work…plus some.
Or maybe we don’t even mean for this happen, it just does accidentally. We say we’ll send that thank you text, email, or letter later, but later ends up getting pushed back until we’ve totally forgotten..
While I’ve only been married for a little over 6 months, and by no means am I some sort of marriage pro, I feel like this relationship is the one that can most easily be taken for granted. Take a second to think about some different marriages in your life, or think about your marriage… Something happens to make two people fall in love right? You pursue one another; go out of your way to do little things to surprise each other; maybe you even do things totally out of our comfort zone because you know it’s something the other loves…am I right? We become completely infatuated with that person that we literally want to do everything we can to make them happy and show our love for them. But then, a few years down the road when we’ve become used to how things are and have settled in with one another are we still taking that extra bit of time to go out of our way to show our love and appreciation for them? Or do we let the stress of other relationships, or a job, or money issues consume our thoughts and affect our moods and actions?
Thankfully, my husband is a constant reminder of how life can’t consist of “just going through the motions”. He reminds me daily to not dwell on things that are out of my control. He reminds me that we have to take those few extra seconds to do the little things that can make a world of a difference. He does simple things for me often, just like the flowers that he brought home from work one day. He didn’t stop at the store and pick up flowers because we had an argument or because “he was in trouble”. He did it as a simple reminder of his love for me and to show me how appreciated I am.
So instead of putting off that thank-you text, email, or letter, how about you take a minute or two and do it now. Do it right now. Think of someone who does things for you without expecting anything in return or someone who deserves a little “happy” as I like to call it, and let them know how important they are and how much they mean to you. We all have a family member, a co-worker, or a friend that could use an extra bit of love. Be the reason for that extra smile on their face today!
Love Always — LC
John 13:34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”